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medi
28th July 2006, 09:54 PM
I think this might seem inappropriate to post this here, but I’ve got to put what I feel somewhere concrete or I might just be sick. My dear grandfather past away this morning, and I’m trying desperately to keep my head straight. He was nearly 80, a ripe old age, but he suffered heavily from Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s so his passing must have been a relief. He could not speak, or even acknowledge company; I worried that he must have seen me and my family as complete strangers.

Before he passed, I thought, “What combination of words can I possibly say to a Loving God for Him to take my grandfather without feeling like I was wishing death on the man I loved like a father”. I’m still shaken and I know it’s selfish of me not to want him to go. This past week, his final week, he was unable to eat, drink, or even swallow. The only sustenance he could have was a damp sponge to his lips and a dose of morphine. He was not living, only surviving, no one could call *that* living.

I post here, because I can’t speak to my mother about it. I know if I bring it up, it will only bring on fresh tears that she’s worked so hard to stop. So, if you all could just keep him and our family in your prayers or thoughts I’d be much obliged.

chichiri83
29th July 2006, 03:59 AM
:)
i pray that u n ur family will find peace.
i believe that the Lord hav plans for all of us, he'll do wat's best for us.

pavili255
29th July 2006, 04:51 AM
I don't blame you for posting here. You are among friends, always remember that.

If you believe in God, remember that your grandfather is in a better place than he was when he was here. He is always watching out for you. Remember that he loves you.

God has a plan for all of us. Your grandfather was just following it, as death is part of the plan.

It's not completely selfish of you to have wanted him to stay. No one wants to see a loved one pass away. It's hard for anyone.

You and your family are in my prayers. :)

guardian_angel
29th July 2006, 05:32 AM
I feel for you, medi. I lost my father to lung cancer a year ago, which was cruel because he had not smoked for the past 20 years. The doctors gave him between six and nine months to live but he lasted just three. At the end he was just not the man I had known and loved all my life and I am so thankful that he did not have to suffer any longer.

I know it's difficult now but time is a great healer. Trust me. Take care. GA

big shawn
29th July 2006, 06:18 AM
i very sorry 4 yur lose yur family and you will be in my prayers u are not selfish yur a grand child wanting there grandparent to stay we all go threw it just feel better knowing that he no longer has to suffer and he will be all better now ok

medi
29th July 2006, 07:12 PM
Thanks guys, I feel a bit better.

Ill be reading at his funeral mass on Monday. Here's hoping I don't choke up.

flamefrost
29th July 2006, 08:28 PM
my sincerest condalances ( if that's how it's spelled). My own granfather had a brainbleed a few years back , eliminating the left half of his brain , paralising his right side of the body ( strange isnt it) , and preventig him from speaking , writing , or communicating trough anything but moans.

On the other hand , he still likes to drink and look at nice women like he used to