kinda depressed

[atwa]

I wanna get really fat but I don't think anyone is gonna want to love me.
I am already pretty fat. I have got a belly that I cannot see my feet over and I need to know if being fat means being lonely. :(

[pavili255]

Well, just a couple things... one, how fat are you right now? Two, how old are you?

I think that people will still like you if you're fat. I mean, I weigh about 245, and I have plenty of friends. But, a lot of that depends on your age... if you're still in school, then don't worry about it, seriously. I mean, there's a total of like two kids who give me a hard time about my weight, and that's only when I bug them. Everyone else likes me. However, if you're older, and looking for a companion, then it's a little tougher I think... you would have to find someone that likes you no matter what. Other than that, the only way to find out is to try it and see what happens.

[atwa]

I am ~17 and I plan to get a very large potbelly (and thunderthighs) and am already very feminine looking in my bikini briefs. I am a boy but a very curvaceous one and plan to wear bras when I get a little bit moreso. I am not gay, I am totally straight and I just hope I can find someone to hang around who will not see me as a twisted pervert. I am about 305 pounds of jiggling fat and I seriously look like a girl and love it. I really am totally heterosexual and want to settle in with a girl but I look like one too.

[bobbysgut]

Here's the way I see it: Even if you found someone as a slim, muscular guy eventually both you and them are going to get old and fat. That is just how life works. If someone you are in a relationship can't accept you the way you are and the way you want to be, perhaps it would be better not to be in a relationship with them to begin with. One thing I have learned is that there is someone out there for everyone, big and small. You just need to be as accepting of them as you hope they will be for you.

[atwa]

Yeah I feel better already. Im gonna go eat a cake :) !

[Omniscient]

there is someone out there for everyone, big and small


Yes, but it won't help if you're just sitting there, if you're afraid of being lonely, go out and get some friends, someone will eventually come along...

[knd220]

Just wait, and eventually the right person will come, alot sooner then you think.:o

[Matuso]

Jeez, I know that feeling. Who's gonna love a gay 315lb hunk of flab?

Well, I know several people. You just have to look for them. Good luck finding anyone in your area (I hate Fresno, there are no gay people here).

[atwa]

thanks you really made me feel better.
This is one of the only places I get support.:o

[Omniscient]

Just wait, and eventually the right person will come, alot sooner then you think.:o

That is just so wrong, you have to look for the right person, he/she might come sooner or later, but they won't come if you just sit there and wait, go out! Get some friends! Meet people, then you'll eventually meet the right one.
Don't sit around or that person might just walk past you...

And if that fails... ...mehh... ...if it fails... ...do it again...:p

[atwa]

I'm not expecting people to come to me, I was just asking if it is realistic to anticipate the possibility of social success. It's just hard for me to know now because I am not even out of highschool yet.

[bobbysgut]

One thing you should know is that high school is no where near reality.People are ridiculously shallow and it gets a lot better after. Older people have more realistic expectations and realize that having a relationship with society's "ideal" body is not possible. Ideals will change and you will find out that a lot of people are attracted to bigger bodies. I agree with everyone else too, you have to put yourself in a situation to meet that person, they can't meet you if you're hiding away at home.

[Toddle]

Jeez, I know that feeling. Who's gonna love a gay 315lb hunk of flab? *cuts quote*

I would :D

[Jaime]

Jergoswarnet: there really is someone out there for every type. The media would like us all to buy in to their "you won't find a partner unless you fit our boring, cookie-cutter standards of attractiveness" crap...but, well that's all that is. Meaningless crap.

In reality...there are a million different women out there that all like different things in guys. Hell, I'm a rather scrawny female, and I think overweight guys are HOT! (well duh, that's why i'm here looking at pictures of them. LOL). It's such a turn-on...especially overweight guys in tight t-shirts..and having a heavy guy on top of me is bliss.
And I know other girls that think the same. We actually were having this discussion at the bar where I work...all five of us present agreed that the generic "male model" type guys are just boring and unoriginal, and none of us had any objections to dating an overweight guy :)

Don't stress. Be yourself, do your thing, and the right person will come along :)