How have your family/friends reacted?

[big boy]

How have your guy's families reacted to your weight gaining?

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Nobody in my family knows im gaining, and if they find out i'll probably be put away in a mental insitution for life.

[bigbellywis]

nobody knows about my gining but there getting on to me

[Simman]

No one in my family knows

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Talked about it with an online friend... he was shocked :o . didn't say anything untill a few mins later :p . But i do feel good about that i can talk about it to someone "outside" the community. :)

[Matuso]

I talked to one of my friends about it. We were in the park (attending Shakespear in the Park), and I told him two things:

1: I'm gay.
And then, not pausing to let the shock wash over him...
2: Fat guys are my fetish, and I'm purposely getting fatter.

Last time I saw him he wasn't uneasy or anything. In fact, he seemed less tense. Perhaps he's gay too.

But that's a long shot.

[Tipical]

No one knows really, my best friend found out on accident. She was worried but that's more or less it, not too shocked.

[fatboigainer]

I live hundreds of mile away from my family, so I can't say that this has ever been a problem for me.

[biggiebecks]

my mom dont like it but it is what I wanted to do so... she dont really make a deal about it now

[killingtime]

Mine haven't even noticed... guess they'll clue in eventually though eh?

[projectsne99]

My family does not know that I am gaining on purpose. They do want me to lose the weight, but that's not going to happen.

[yeahsoanyways]

i think i hid it pretty well.
not that im ashamed or anything.
my mother would freak.

[chubsteruk1]

Damn, all I get is greif. I was real sporty 32" waist, now I'm a growing, lardy 44" waist. I love it, but my folks sure don't! One friend knows properly, and he always shakes my gut and tells me how fat Im getting. He knows how I like it...

[fatrolls]

i dad tried to make me lose weight but it had nothing to do with him finding out but that eventualy led to me screwing him over so i forced him to drop it!!! LOL:)

[drehpehs]

Good to have a friend who knows... Last summer i went from 154 lbs to 188 thanks to weigtlifting, protein gainers and creatine - but instead of muscle I gained fat :) At 188 my parents told me to stop it... Now I´d like to go on, but they are against.

[tyje]

after i came out to my parents they started monitoring my internet use - found bellybuilders... it was pretty bad... the understanding is now that we dont talk about it - that it was just a 'phase' - even though both sides of this agreement know full well that it isnt a phase, that im still gay, and still like fat guys.

but its the topic that must 'never be spoken of again'. a few of my friends know that im attracted to bigger guys - and didnt have a problem with it - its all about phrasing. if you say 'i love BIG FAT GUYS with bellies' then of course youre gonna freak people out. saying 'i actually find a little extra weight on a guy to be attractive' - ive had friends AGREEING with me!

[Fat boy]

My parents don't know. My mom did say something to me though when I lost about 75#s in a year because I was so sick. Thin I was wearing like a 28 and then I got down to some thing in a kids size, I don't remember. She told me, you are getting big again you need to keep the weight off. I just ignored her. Right now I am about 100#s heavier than I was then and I now wear a size 34 jeans, and I am happy.

[phatgroove]

My mom keeps asking when I'm rejoining the gym... I keep postponing that lol. And once a friend said to me (infront of my brother who is very skinny and proud of that) "You've gotten bigger eh?" and I totally said "OH NOOOOOOOO" but it wasnt like "No", it was loaded with "LETS NOT DO THIS HERE OR NOW!"

[Zack Schwarting]

my perants would go crazy if they found out i gain

[Largeness]

Initially my mom didnt care. she told me that i was "certainly getting pretty chubby". She just thinks im getting fat because my eating habits have caught up to me, not because i like it, or that im doing it on purpose. but now that my gain is getting more and more obvious she doesnt seem to into it anymore. but im definatly going to keep gaining so until she says something, im going to continue.

[fat_man]

No one knows in my family... Maybe they'll realize at t he end of summer, when my goal is to be over 200. But it'll just be something like "you need to eat healthier", and I'll nod and pretend I'm going to, then let them forget.

[jaybear]

No one knows in my family... Maybe they'll realize at t he end of summer, when my goal is to be over 200. But it'll just be something like "you need to eat healthier", and I'll nod and pretend I'm going to, then let them forget.
I hope they don't rag too hard on you. A big belly is kinda hard to hide, especially on a young guy, unless there are other fat relatives in your family that might divert attention away from you. Let's hope they don't take it too seriously and will forget about you and let you do what YOU really want.

[Lithium]

Yeah my parents found out. It was pretty messy. I don't blame them for how they reacted. My parents want to take me to a psychologist or therapist or something. I don't want to, but if it'll make them happy I'll do it.

[Icarus]

Bottom line is, if your parents find out about you gaining its only because you've let them, there is always a way to cover your tracks and make excuses.

[Lithium]

Bottom line is, if your parents find out about you gaining its only because you've let them, there is always a way to cover your tracks and make excuses.

Yeah, I know. My parents found out when they fixed an old computer of mine. I mean I hadn't used it in a year, maybe longer. Some program related to gaining popped up and they looked deeper. I know it was my fault but there wasn't much I could do.

And to make it worse they found out the day after my birthday.

[jaybear]

Yeah my parents found out. It was pretty messy. I don't blame them for how they reacted. My parents want to take me to a psychologist or therapist or something. I don't want to, but if it'll make them happy I'll do it.
Nasty stuff, Lithium. Conflict with the parents can never be fun. I remember when my father realized that I was gay. My mother knew (of course) and was not only okay but actually happy with it, but my father just could never cope with it. How either of them would have reacted if they knew I also longed to be fat, I can only guess...

But the most important thing for you is YOUR life. They don't have to live your life - it's you that must. So make of it what YOU want (within reason) and be true to your own needs. And if gaining is what you need in your life, you WILL find the way to do it, even if a few little "political detours" are necessary to keep the peace until you are on your own.

Good luck, dude. And keep true to your own ideals.

[bigleg]

my parents dont know and wont know cause I'm gonna be out of the house by the summer for college, so they wont find out, they'll just think that I'll be partying alot. lol

[Lithium]

Thanks, I appreciate it.

[LrgrThnLf]

Bottom line is, if your parents find out about you gaining its only because you've let them, there is always a way to cover your tracks and make excuses.Perhaps true at its core, but maybe a little harsh in wording..

... and some parents can be extremely inquisitive - someone shouldn't have to go to extremes playing cat & mouse / hide and seek..

[Barnabas Collins]

It's sad to have to be like that, but then again, I've not told my parents about that long period I just got through deciding what figure I like, and I'm not sure I'll ever tell them. My mom would freak out, and my dad would be very confused. My sisters might be the only ones to understand at all, but they wouldn't talk about it around our parents.

[BigZero]

due to the fact ive always been big, my parents just shrug off my increasing size. They would prolly kick me out of the house if they found out. Its kinda wierd that they havnt considered that im gianing weight on purpose, they just helped me buy new pants and a few shirts.

i've told two of my really close friends that i like being fat. the lastest one said she couldn't imagine me any other way, that im the big teddy bear of the group. that whole thing made me smile. :)

[Icarus]

True, perhaps the way I said that was a little harsh, but in quite a few circumstances thats the underlying factor behind it.

I still can't comprehend though why some people CHOOSE to tell their parents about it :/

[FatMike]

I still can't comprehend though why some people CHOOSE to tell their parents about it :/
Some people probably find it hard to lie to there parents about stuff, or feel generally guilty about keeping it a secret, even if its probably guaranteed to screw up their relationship with there parents. Its not something you can compare to coming out if your gay (unless your parents are homophobic or deeply religious of course)
True, perhaps the way I said that was a little harsh, but in quite a few circumstances thats the underlying factor behind it.
No, I think you worded it right. These days its very easy to cover your tracks on the computer, most browsers will clear cache and history on exit if you ask it too. Unless you have very computer-savvy parents or keep like a written journal, I don't see how it would be hard to hide it.

[Lithium]

Some people probably find it hard to lie to there parents about stuff, or feel generally guilty about keeping it a secret, even if its probably guaranteed to screw up their relationship with there parents. Its not something you can compare to coming out if your gay (unless your parents are homophobic or deeply religious of course)

No, I think you worded it right. These days its very easy to cover your tracks on the computer, most browsers will clear cache and history on exit if you ask it too. Unless you have very computer-savvy parents or keep like a written journal, I don't see how it would be hard to hide it.

Unfortunately I do have computer-savvy parents. My stepdad is huge into computers. He makes robots and programs them to do stuff and he takes apart computers. I got... overconfident, I guess.

[free74chino]

It was always a health concern for my parents. I always got the same lecture over and over on diabetes, heart attacks, and so forth. As I left home, some of those lectures diminished but gradually continued on. Nowadays, it's basically up to me. Once you reach the legal age, you're on your own. Though at times, I get flashbacks about it. Two years ago, I went to get checked and the doctor recommended that i loose some weight and stop drinking. My triglecerides were way too high for my age. So, I toned it down with the beer, and alcohol drinking. I feel better but sometimes I do go back to my old ways. I yet have to see what the doctor has to say after two years of modifying my way of drinking.
Globally, I perceive it as cultural issue. There are cultures around the world that value largeness(big bellies) and others that make it a tabu(castrated from social status). It's all bullshit!
If you want to be a gainer, move one! If you don't, then let it be!

[Big_fat_kiddo]

My parents keep telling me I'm "getting bigger" everytime they see me, It's annoying and extremely discouraging.

But since I'm 18 now they can't really restrict me from anything anymore, so I'll do my best to ignore them.

[Barnabas Collins]

Globally, I perceive it as cultural issue. There are cultures around the world that value largeness(big bellies) and others that make it a tabu(castrated from social status). It's all bullshit!

I agree chino, the problem the equality of bigger people is that there are places where it is encouraged and others where it is deeply discouraged. I hope America soon comes to the happy medium of accepting people of whatever figure/ shape they have.

[FatMike]

Globally, I perceive it as cultural issue. There are cultures around the world that value largeness(big bellies)
This is becoming very common in the Pacific Islands.
As fattening calorie-rich food continue to be heavily imported at very cheap prices, the whole area which style considers obesity to be equal to superiority and wealth (Take a look at the previous king of the Island of Tonga, he was about 350lb). One small island nation, Nauru has an Obesity rate of 90% for its population due to this kind of thinking.

Apparently none of the attitudes that have worked in western countries have yet worked with the people in the Pacific Islands, because as they have slightly modernized there life expectancy has increased despite the increase in obesity levels, so the whole "its going to kill you or make you sick" conflicts with common statistics and generally century-old beliefs in the region.

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Humans have adapted to "extreme" things before, so it's just a matter of time before obesity becomes "normal".

Also, they found bones that date back to the Stone Age on which they can see almost everyone was overweight in those days, which fits perfectly with the things on Pacific Islands. It shows wealth, richdom etc. on there, while it showed you were a good hunter in the Stone Age.

[Barnabas Collins]

Well, people have probably found some of the better hunters' graves because as they were so wealthy, they could afford to have overthetop graves, while as those less fortunate may have just been thrown into the bogs or something.

[essay0826]

For those of you who have gone from thin to fat, how have doctors reacted upon seeing the sudden change in size (without knowing that it was intentional)?

[Barnabas Collins]

Gosh, I have never been thin, but not really that fat. I got this new doctor a few weeks ago, and she hates fat. The way she treated me, I was about the size and figure of a beached whale...

As long as you're active, being fat isn't bad. Fitness is really important for overall health.

[Beerbellyboi]

Family don't know! If I gain weight I think they would blame it on getting older rather than actively trying!

[jackjackjack]

I've had comments like "You're really filling out" And "You've gotten a lot bigger," But I've been combining my gaining with muscle gain and they haven't seen me shirtless since last summer. I think if they found out they'd be really confused,

I wish I could tell a friend, but they'd never understand. One of them hates fat people, the others all work out a lot and being skinny is like more important that anything elce in the world. But I do have a friend outside of school who I've wanted to tell many a time, but I'm afraid it would be aukward between us. I'm also afraid I'll mess up by telling everyone when I'm drunk or once at school I typed http://www.bi, about to type bigguts.

I don't think it's a fetish, being attracted to big is just like being attracted to small, it's simply a preferance like tall or short. And wanted to be fat is just like wanting to be thin, a way of feeling attractive to yourself.

[FatMike]

I'll mess up by telling everyone when I'm drunk or once at school I typed http://www.bi, about to type bigguts.

Word of advice.. never try and go to this site at School/Work. Mainly because the title of the site and the forum's avatars will make it all really obvious, and you never know when someone could walk in.

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Also, most schools work using 1 network, that is connected to a main computer. Everything you look up will be tracked, and the person behind the main computer will be able to see the website, and most likely mark it as porn or something else.

So, my advice also is, don't visit it anywhere public.

[jackjackjack]

I know, I just by accident started typing it in

[Barnabas Collins]

Some new schools are making it so you have to log in to do anything on the computer. My high school started doing it, and found quite soon which people looked up which websites during school. A lot of people got in trouble. Luckly, I didn't find this website til after high school, otherwise going here would have been too tempting...

[jaybear]

Many businesses are really cracking down too, cuz they realized how much company time people were wasting doing personal things on the net - and some pretty nasty things, too! At the most recent place I was doing contract work, every time you logged in you got a warning about abuse of web access privileges!

Didn't bother me cuz I had far too much work to do to play on the web during office hours, and why risk getting caught doing something best done from the privacy of your home anyway? But a few idiots never got the message and got dealt with rather severely.

[jackjackjack]

My school has a log in, every school in Toronto has for some time now, so I never go to websites that I wouldn't go to in front of my parents. I did however go to play an online game and I got a warning because the game was "violent", those people suck!

[fat hiker]

This is becoming very common in the Pacific Islands.
As fattening calorie-rich food continue to be heavily imported at very cheap prices, the whole area which style considers obesity to be equal to superiority and wealth (Take a look at the previous king of the Island of Tonga, he was about 350lb).

The previous King of Tonga was up over 600 pounds for quite a while - there are photos of him in front of his royal limousine which had licence plates "1 TON". He lost weight when he got older, down to 350, because of health problems.

[koalaman]

if my family ever found out they would be in shock. it's a good thing that i never plan to tell them.

although, i am trying to gain some muscle right now and then gain a bit later so i guess they wouldn't mind right now..

[fredd43605]

What they don't know won't hurt them. Probably have that logic since I don't really plan to gain though, even though I enjoy others gaining.

[LrgrThnLf]

At work, I'm the LAN Administrator - and I manage the email quarantine as well as the network etc. etc. - saw an email go through for the boss today which appeared to be a listing of search results for a swingers site :)

Maybe it was spam.. who knows.. I didn't see the body of the email.. but I found it amusing :)

[cthuhu_servant3]

In the beggining my Mom was so upset about it and bugged me all the time but now she dosen't bug me that much any more. My dad dosen't really care about it either he weighs around 260 ish and my weight gain dosen't really bother him. Plus their are alot of people in the rest of my family that are fat too. I have a cousin that is pretty big I guess around 300lbs. I have a brother-in-law who is around 500lbs. so they don't mind that much either

[wolvo23]

no one knows. people have noticed that i've put a little weight on, but most say it looks better on me (i was skinny before). family have noticed that i'm eating a lot more now though, and keep saying i'll get fat! i just smile to myself ;)

[BOBBY00]

No-one knows in mine either

[abg1988]

That is the beauty of college...No one needs to know, and it is somewhat expected in the american society to gain weight in college...i think the freshmen 15 term was based on probably american college socities.

And everyone gets "fat" in college...even the skinny guys and galls lol

[ColdFire26]

Nobody in my family knows....Also they don't know that I'm Bisexual also. Only a few of my friends know and my sister, my sister doesn't care. I will be kicked out if my dad found out about all of this. My father is homophobic and so is my brother...(twin brother)

[bobbykandal]

I left for uni at a trim 185 and last summer came back from college with and extra 25lbs or so and since I hadnt exercised it was all fat pretty much right to my belly (lost alot of muscle definition too) and we have a pool..so my folks noticed right away when they saw me with no shirt but understood cause thats what college does to ppl..this summer..not sure what they will say..probably just kid with me...they're pretty cool and I'm not that big yet..plan to get to 250 tho by the end of the summer! screw what they think :)

[jaybear]

Hey there, bobbykandal... now that you've put on some 25 lbs. over and above the 25 you did last year (and considering how big you look in your pics), I dare say your folks won't be able to help noticing your larger self when you get home from college this year! But since you plan on keeping up with the gain through the summer, I really admire your "Screw what they think attitude"! Whip your shirt off at your pool and show off your fat gut with pride!

And oh yes, Bobby... Happy Birthday! Hope you eat lots today and work on that overhang!!

[Barnabas Collins]

Bobbykandal, I congraduate you for your bavery with your parents. It can be hard to intentionally create conflict with parents, but don't let fear of telling them get in the way. I'm sure your parents love you, and just want what's best for you. They might assume you want to be slim and it sort of happened, just remember that and maybe explain to them that this is something you want.

[trozei]

My parents just think i'm gaining weight naturally (whichi kind of am) so there trying to get me to do osmethings to lose weight. We'll see how that works out. XD

[fat_kid&proud]

my parents don't really care. Although my friends have noticed, we were going tux shoping (for prom) and the lady started to measure my gut and then she said in the nicest way possible i would have to shop somewhere else for my tux they only carried pants upto 40" and they didn't have any shirts that would come close to fitting. My friends ask me to try and lose weight i then explained to them that not only do i not mind but i like the weight.

[DEgrowinBoy]

My parents have no clue because I hid it well. Only problem is I eat a lot and its mostly junk. So my mom gives me the "all of this is gonna catch up with you" talk. Cause my dad's side is prone to fat.

I think one of my buddies figured it out. He's allways poking and grab my arms, chest and belly. And he jokes about it.

Cant wait till I college, four years of parent free fat time.

[WTFOMGwolfgang]

My mom always lectures me about my boyfriend being too fat...

"When's he going to lose that weight??"

"Doesn't that bother you?"

I told her one night that it doesn't bother me at all. And, unlike her, I don't see it as a disease or w/e, I see it as a physical characteristic kind of like hair colour.

[dublover42]

My parents don't know, and if they did I would probably be kicked out of the house.

[Barnabas Collins]

My parents don't know, and if they did I would probably be kicked out of the house.

Do you really think that your parents would kick you out for wanting to be fat, dublover42? I've had a lot of times where I had to tell my parents stuff that I thought they would explode over, but they were fine. As long as you present the issue gradually, not just heap it on them, and do it when they're not angry with you, you will probably be fine. Then again, I don't know you, so use your own judgement.

[melchior]

none of my family or friend know about these, i intend to keep it as my little dirty secret. well, not for too long, i guess

[iw64]

Uh... It terrifies me from gaining to think about what my family would say.

[melchior]

Uh... It terrifies me from gaining to think about what my family would say.

Yeah, It is. They're talking about diet stuff to me now. They wanted me to lose some weight. I can't imagine if they find out I gain weight on purpose. :(

[Bsquared]

When it comes up, and I tell people "I actually prefer the chunkier guys"...they usually respond with the "huh? wait, what?" look, and the subject gets changed pretty quickly.

I can only imagine the reaction that telling anyone "I like the chunkier guys, and especially the ones who are looking to get bigger" would get.

Preferences of this sort aren't something you can expect everyone to immediately understand, especially not parents (especially not the ones who are under the impression that their children are their property, rather than individuals living their lives)

[Icarus]

When I tell people (not relatives obviously) in conversation that my type is the 'larger guy' they don't seem to mind.

[dream853]

When I talk with my friend about this one guy I had a crush on at school (i use the word had, because he turned out to be not very nice lol), she always teases me about it because of his weight...but i think he looks pretty hot with his little belly :p
I can't even begin to imagine what my fam and friends (esp my mom lol) would say if i told them i think bellies are hot lol...hahaha it would prolly be the same if i told my mom i'm gay (i.e. not the best lol)...so if and when i do come out to her, i don't think i'll follow up with "ohh and guys with bellies and who are into my belly are what i like most" :p

[WTFOMGwolfgang]

My mom is particularly ignorant in regards to my boyfriend [those who haven't seen my semi-mooshy pic thread of sexiness: 6'0" 260 lbs] She thinks he definitely has diabetes and asks me if he smells bad. Of course not. He knows for a fact he doesn't have beetus and he smells WONDERFUL, even after walking around for hours on a hot day.

[Largeness]

yesterday, my mom and I went to the store to buy some new shorts because the ones from last summer are much too small now. i had worn a size 34, so my mom just picked out the next size up, a 35. so when i went into the dressing room and tryed to put them on, the shorts wouldnt even button. i told my mom they didnt fit, but she wanted to see me in them anyway. so i finally sqeezed into them and when i let my belly out, it looked like the shorts were going to pop right off of me. when i went outside the room and my mom was like " i dont see what so bad about..." and she lifted up my shirt to see how the waist fit, and her jaw just dropped. my belly hung over the waist-band so far, and it just looked enormous. so she just told me to go take them off and she came back with a disgusted look on her face with a size 36, which fit, but just barely. so when we got home, i took the shorts out of the bag, and saw that she had bought two pairs of size 38 shorts too. she told me later that i needed to slow down my eating and try and lose a little weight because i was starting to become fat. so all in all, she had changed her mind about my gaining as of a few days ago. a few months ago she couldnt care less, and now, she seems against it. i was pretty excited though, because now i have a goall; to out grow the 36 shorts and eventually fill up the 38's (which are too big right now). i was also excited that she called me "fat". its the first time anyones called me that and it shows me that my work is paying off and people can now tell that i am heavy with my shirt on, instead of only being able to tell i was chunky without my shirt on.

[BigZero]

I think if my parents found out about me gaining, they would freak, but since i turned 18, i'm 20 now, they seemed to have calmed down. They dont freak out when they help me buy cloths, like 48x32 pants and 4xlt shirts.

[harryfatboi]

the way my mm fnd out was quite funny! got back from stayin round my aunts house for two months about 2 stone heavier and she was like WTF!! I said i done it on purpose coz iwant to get bigger, i want something to play with i sed and she was ok! now she buys lots of crap (junk food) for me ;P

[leoraving]

the way my mm fnd out was quite funny! got back from stayin round my aunts house for two months about 2 stone heavier and she was like WTF!! I said i done it on purpose coz iwant to get bigger, i want something to play with i sed and she was ok! now she buys lots of crap (junk food) for me ;P

Amazing! In 8 pages of responses so far, that has to be the dream response! Lucky guy! And I think we all want to stay at your aunt's place - that is an impressive gain.
I was always thin so my gain was certainly noticed - parents and friends made comments after my first 20 pounds. (They all seemed to gang up on me at the same time.) But the remaining 80 pound gain has been a doddle - once they got used to me being fat, there have been no comments despite my spectacular gaining. OK, there has been the odd comment about me looking "well" (did that comment mean "man, hes' got fat"?) but perhaps they really meant it, and there have certainly been no demands for me to lose weight. So we can get away with it sometimes after the initial shock! I certainly have (is there an icon for a smug look?)

[Matuso]

I had a nasty dream last night that my mom and I were watching our vacation tape, and on there was the security camera video of me shirtless in a gas station bathroom. It was really, really bizarre.

the way my mm fnd out was quite funny! got back from stayin round my aunts house for two months about 2 stone heavier and she was like WTF!! I said i done it on purpose coz iwant to get bigger, i want something to play with i sed and she was ok! now she buys lots of crap (junk food) for me ;P

Bull.

[buy more product]

<gang up> Yeah, that's pretty bogus. &c. </gang up>

[FatMike]

the way my mm fnd out was quite funny! got back from stayin round my aunts house for two months about 2 stone heavier and she was like WTF!! I said i done it on purpose coz iwant to get bigger, i want something to play with i sed and she was ok! now she buys lots of crap (junk food) for me ;P
*bullshit meter explodes*
This ain't a fantasy world.

[Wish Fulfillment]

My grandmother's being a real bitch about it, especially considering I've not even made it to overweight BMI yet. And she most definitely has.

[Fat boy]

Just the other day I had to get some new clothes. I had been wearing 34's and 36's depending on the brand. so when I went to grab some shorts and the levis were on sale. I have never had levis brand so I grabbed the 36's thinking they would fit well. Went to the dressing room and could barely get them zipped. Went out got some 38's and they fit fine. I took them to my mom and she asked if I knew that these were 38's. I said yes. She said what do you have on now. I told her 34's and they were the target brand. They were kind of snug, hard to button, still fit though. Have no idea why I was even getting new shorts. She says, "a 38" is bigger than your father." I said but they fit. She goes on, you really need to loose some weight. Your dad has lost some pounds and you need to also. When we got home she told me she wanted to see me button them up so I showed her. I had to lift my gut, suck in then button. She looked and said that they looked tight on me. I told her I liked them tight. She said next time I am going to buy you some 40's if you can't get that weight off.

[buy more product]

Look! He's back, and his whole family participates in his teenage fatboy hotness. "Let me see you button them," indeed. Did her post-menopausal cheeks flush with reawakened lust at the sight of you panting and straining? Gad, sir.

[Raain]

okay guys you know what, can you NOT be so mean to the people that seem like they made it up? can you just keep it to yourself? I mean come on, even if it is bull-crap, can you just like let it go and not attack EVERYONE because they want to give a fictional story where everything is okay? At least they're TRYING to give ppl hope...:(

[dream853]

I agree with Raain. I mean, even though some of the posts do seem more like fantasies than truths, I think they're still fine for the forum. Maybe, if u want to make up something interesting, you could just be honest about it, and put it in the stories section? But they're all still fun to read here too, and I really don't think there should be this much conflict over a few posts. Everyone should just believe what they want, and make a polite comment if they wish.

[buy more product]

I find it very unsettling that you're OK with this, Raain. This is why:

This forum exists to provide a support and social network to a variety of people with a variety of interlocked interests and goals. But they are real people, with real lives, legitimate concerns, and the ability to differentiate reality from fiction.

The reason I, and others, have been reacting with such hostility to people who insultingly dilute the basic fabric of assumed honesty that allows social intercourse to exist on the internet is because it undermines that function.

First, and most importantly, we have a story section. It's there to provide "hope"--very sexualized hope, just like this--if that's what a visitor comes for. There is no pressure from necessity to confuse reality and fiction in this way.

Second, when that confusion takes place it erodes what sense of community and solidarity we can manage to eke out in a medium whose nature lends itself to anonymity and unaccountability. If we make it clear--as you are advocating, Raain--that even the most outlandish posturing will be ignored in favor of dream853's "politeness," I think that it will become progressively harder to feel comfortable talking about our real lives and real problems.

Third, the kind of stuff we've been seeing lately makes the (already bad) face of the forum look even worse. Gainers already look sick and twisted enough without this weird and faintly incestuous fantasizing going on under the pretense of real, daily experience.

This isn't "hope," this is fraud. Nobody's interests are served by the younger or more gullible kids on this forum internalizing a superficial and really fairly damaging idea of what life is like, as disseminated through fantasy posts like this--especially when the basic goodness and friendliness of the kind of guys who frequent this forum lends itself to credulity.

Can I "just like let it go?" No. Everything is not OK: Because lies are always disgusting, and lying on the internet is not only ugly but also, eventually, dangerous.

fat boy, we're decent people. If you quit these shenanigans and join the party on honest terms--even if you're older than you say you are, even if most of what you've said about yourself is false--there's still a place at the table for you, perhaps a very popular place on the story boards. But, as you can see, tolerance is now at a practically non-existent level and tempers are flaring on both sides of the issue.

The freaksafari raid has really changed the temperament of the boards, at least for now. That, if nothing else, should demonstrate to Raain and others why the issue of truthfulness and posing is on our minds right now. It's not only a moral position--it's appropriate to reject lies--but a position of self-preservation.

[Raain]

dude u sound like my parents don't wig out so much ^___^ its not that big of a deal *hug* didn't mean for you to get THAT worked up, its nothing really. just forget i posted anything if it makes you that angry, silly republican! <3 Peace and love! :D *feels like a hippie*

[Icarus]

To be fair, rain and dream, some of us who have been here alot longer have bull shit like this posted week in, week out, and we can pretty much see the signs a mile off. I'd have to say, alot of it sounds like the biggest load of crock I've ever heard.

Especially when the poster refuses to comment to any of the posts that are made about the truth in his posts, in several threads.

The major problem with the Internet, is that people like to play make-pretend, and they can get away with it. I've come across many people (some who I've known in real life first) on the Internet who say one thing, but it's clearly another. People like to be bigger, better and cooler than other people, and if they can't achieve it in real life, they come somewhere where no proof is needed and they need no certification, so that they can boast their imaginary stories to the world in return for empty, hollow praise.

[FatMike]

I have to side with buy more product and daedalusj on this one.
Yes, the majority of people on this board are kids, but that is no excuse to continue to post stories straight out of some fantasy world that the kid is obviously imagining, or wishing at the most.

Dream & Raain have valid points, but fat boy's stories belong in the stories section. Those who have been in the community for a long time, as daedalusj said can spot a bullshit story from a mile away. Its part of our rules too, if any of you have ever read them (hehe) that fake stories are not tolerated. fat boy has earned a red mark on his account for this, and if these stories consistently get posted since I have asked politely previously, harsher penalties may apply. If this board gets full of bullshit stories like this, it opens the door to people who will lie about more, which could put our members in danger. I have given fat boy ample time and a non-judging environment to respond when we have caught out his fake stories, and he hasn't chose to do that.

Dream and Raain, you have to learn in this community because it is such a taboo subject, and the amount of fakers around is very high you can't just smile at everything thats bullshit. You have to show vigilance around it otherwise it will grow, and make the overall quality of the forum drop. Let this be a lesson not to believe anything you hear online from the majority of people in this community that aren't well known, because there is always a big chance that they're not telling the truth.

To those members who are breaking the rules, considering this post your only and final warning.
It will be the last I say on the matter, cause I am sick of seeing fake stories plastered over the site.

[Big_fat_kiddo]

To spice it up a little.

We will just ban automaticly if we spot any more retarded bullshit from anyone.

[Raain]

well...can i say just one more thing? I thought that his post was true...because well, sometimes people can say stupid things, maybe thats why he brought it up. I dunno, it just seems believable to me thats why it made me want to say something. Cuz you know...not everyone says the thing that they were supposed to. :P Although I'm still saying there's no need to be rude, like dream said, leave a POLITE comment and don't be a jerk about it, or ban them on the spot and just don't start an argument. thats really what bothers me...

ok i'm done with this, pointless argueing.

:P

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Arguments are good
It's still a "Discussion" Forum ;)

But from what we've seen in the past, we know a faker when we see one.
The sings are dead obvious. The way they post, move around and are afraid to reply to comments that people have made is solid proof.

Also, a lie has a large basic thing. DETAILS.

If something happens to you during the day, can you still remember what everyone exactly said, did, was wearing and what the surroundings looked like etc. And all chronologically?

[AFatChance]

I agree heavily with buy more product and daedalusj. I think that it's rather annoying to see anyone lying on here. It doesn't add anything to this topic - given that it is not true and may encourage some younger members to make a rash decision like admitting to their parents their preferences - and is just ridiculous. What I don't understand is what was wrong with Fat boy's post? I didn't find it unrealistic.

The point is be honest or whatever.

[Lithium]

I also agree with you guys' points. I'm tired of fakers. They're irritating. However, as AFatChance said, Fatboy's post wasn't unrealistic. I mean, it's possible it's not real, but I can see that happening. It's stuff like this:

the way my mm fnd out was quite funny! got back from stayin round my aunts house for two months about 2 stone heavier and she was like WTF!! I said i done it on purpose coz iwant to get bigger, i want something to play with i sed and she was ok! now she buys lots of crap (junk food) for me ;P

That's bullshit. It's annoying and has to be stopped. I just think Fatboy's been unfairly criticized.

EDIT: I forgot about Fatboy's "fat uncle" thread. That was most likely bullshit. However, my point still stands. Fatboy's post on here is believable.

[pavili255]

I really only have one thing to say...

BE HONEST!!!! It doesn't matter if you're skinny as a rail or if your stories of your weight gain aren't as "cool" as other peoples'. Just be yourself! I always try to be honest about things.

Please, if it's bull...spit... don't post it and say it's true!! Post it in the stories section... it's there for a reason!

However, if it's true, don't post it like a story and make it unbelievable. Many times I'd rather hear a true story than a made up one.

[Big_fat_kiddo]

Its possible, but very unlikely that what he posted has happend.
Especially after his other posts about his relatives, and now with this new one, it's kind of hard to believe.

[pavili255]

Its possible, but very unlikely that what he posted has happend.
Especially after his other posts about his relatives, and now with this new one, it's kind of hard to believe.
I agree. Some of his stories sound possible, but verrrrrry unlikely. Sure, it would be REALLY awesome if something like that happened, but it's not very likely.

One thing that speaks to his condemnation is the fact that he hasn't even come back to defend his posts or back them up...:eek:

[buy more product]

Most of the post which I reacted to is in fact feasible, if unlikely, except for the sexualized, voyeuristic part: No mother, unless she is either mentally ill and interested in humiliating her child, or else a closet fat admirer, would stage a "let me see you button them" moment. Had that element not been there, I wouldn't have called him out; it would have in fact been unfair, since reason wouldn't have precluded the truthfulness of what he was saying.

Additionally, we had already seen similarly incestuous fantasy writing from this user.

[AFatChance]

Well, yeah, but it isn't neccessarily incestuous. My Mother has told me to button pants for her - especially when I was younger to prove that they fit well and I wouldn't have a problem with them in the future. I think that you're skewing the connotation of his sentence.

Also, he may not even know we're talking about him unless someone PMs him. I rarely return to threads to see who replied to what I said unless it's my own thread.

I understand that uncle crap, but this isn't that incestuous. I suppose a lot of things could be misconstrued to seem incestuous, but I think you guys are jumping to conclusions based on his prior posts.

[FatMike]

Also, he may not even know we're talking about him unless someone PMs him. I rarely return to threads to see who replied to what I said unless it's my own thread.
Believe me, I've tried time and time again, told him we won't judge if he responded to his stories, and even after the infraction that was given (which is sent along with a PM explaining why it was placed on the member) I still have no response.

[buy more product]

There's enough bad gainer fiction circulating without getting Sedaris involved. :)

[blargh127]

*looks at above posts.. slightly confused* Err.. my weight fluctuates too much and I'm still growing up though so they really don't notice anything out the usual. Then again.. I got nothing. >_<

[Wish Fulfillment]

No mother, unless she is either mentally ill and interested in humiliating her child, or else a closet fat admirer, would stage a "let me see you button them" moment.

Actually, my grandmother's done that to me. To embarrass me no doubt.

[bellydude17]

Mine haven't noticed either. I have gotten some belly pokes and that before.

[dan89]

It's something I'm worried will happen eventually and have tried to think of ways to make up excuses. All three members of my family have seen me on there websites and asked questions; but none really know the nitty gritty stuff.

[goodgainer]

well, nobody knows because:
mom weighs 250
Uncle weighs 400+ (uncle is obsessive-compulsive eater. He'll eat anything that is in house. But, occasionally he will try to diet, lose 50 pounds, but find twinkies and gain it back. He hates being fat, by the by.)
Stepmom weighs 260-ish (guess)
Aunt weighs 300+

well, get the idea? They think its in the genes...

[klay33]

mine haven't , but It's hard to get around!

[collegefat]

i've gained about 35lbs since i've started but no one has really said anything until a week ago my grandpa came in the kitchen the other day and asked" what you doing fat boy" it kind of thew me for a loop

[beergut572]

my family has noticed a slight growth in me withing the past few months, but now that i'm actually going to be trying to put weight on i'm afraid they are going to notice, but maybe they wont, i really don't care either way

[akaras]

Pretty much everyone says I should lose weight in my family at any rate. Oh well. :P

[tdjhg]

My grand parents came over the other day and I was wearing no shirt, and my gram said "I think you've gained a lot of weight, look at your stomach, its sticking out past your belt, you're starting to look like your father (who has a huge belly)".

She is right. I've put on about 20 pounds since the start of summer when I tired to lose weight

[Stuffed80]

No one in my family knows. But I don’t think they would say anything about it, they are pretty open minded about things.

[fatteninghog]

due to the fact ive always been big, my parents just shrug off my increasing size. They would prolly kick me out of the house if they found out. Its kinda wierd that they havnt considered that im gianing weight on purpose, they just helped me buy new pants and a few shirts.

i've told two of my really close friends that i like being fat. the lastest one said she couldn't imagine me any other way, that im the big teddy bear of the group. that whole thing made me smile. :)

WELL I HAVE TO SAY my dad is a real ass hole ... sorry for the language but it is a fact and i had to say it for real lol .. ok venting done ..

I know having to deal with a lousy home life can suck but it is not the end of the world there like others on here have said to cover your tracks and such but the best thing i can say is for you to say nothing at all to him about it or advoid him the best you can stay in your room a lot .. that should make a very LOUD statment of your views of his behavior plus keeps you from adding more fule to the fire as well as provides you with solidtude and peace from the crap ..
HEY THATS WHAT I VE DONE WITH MY FATHER .. it works and he is a real all time all star for starting a argument or bitching for no good reason just to bitch

[BlueBeanie]

My family really hasn't seen me in over 2 years, my mom is close she's noticed but hasn't really said anything, most of my family is on the east coast in VA while I'm out in AZ, so I'm really nervous about what they would say if they did see me.

[fatboyporgy]

a couple of my mates know as my weight goes up and down all the time, i dont mind, just not sure which way to tip the scales at the mo